Fathers penning instructive letters to their sons was obviously customary - one remembers Lord Chesterfield's letters to his son, amongst others, and I have just located a letter that Rev George Austen, father of Jane (her again!) wrote to his son Francis when he joined the Navy:
'Your behaviour, as a member of society to the Individuals around you may be of great importance to your future well-doing....The little world, of which you are going to become an inhabitant, will consist of three Orders of Men - All of whom will occasionally have it in their power to contribute no little share to your pleasure or pain; to conciliate their goodwill, by every honourable Method will be the part of a prudent Man. Your Commander and Officers will be most likely to become your friends by a respectful behaviour to themselves, and by an active & ready Obedience to orders. Good humour, an inclination to oblige & the carefully avoiding every appearance of Selfishness will infallibly secure you the regards of your own Mess & of all your Equals. With your Inferiors....there is a sort of kindness they have a claim on you for, & which, you may believe me, will not be thrown away on them.
Your conduct chiefly comprehends Sobriety & Prudence...She [Prudence] will teach you the proper disposal of your time & the careful management of your Money..She will teach you that the best chance of rising in life is to make yourself as useful as possible & distinguishing yourself from those of your rank by a superior Proficiency in Nautical Acquirements.'
The letter was found among Frank's papers, worn and tattered from frequent reading and folding, when he died Admiral of the Fleet in 1865.
From 'Memorandum for the use of Mr F.W. Austen on his going to the East Indies on board His Majesty's ship 'Perseverance' (Captain Smith) December 1788' quoted in 'Jane Austen's Sailor Brothers' by J H and E C Hubback, 1905.
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