Anna,
The Professor Callender quote looks to be a combination of Haslewood's 1846 recollection and James Harrison's 1806 'Life of Nelson.'
Quote:
'Lord Nelson having consented to go out second in command, on this grand and most important expedition, came to London, for a few days, previously to his departure: when his lordship learned, with no small degree of surprise, that Lady Nelson had given up the house, and was retired to Brightelmstone. His astonishment, at thus finding himself without a house or home, is not easy to be described. He hastened to his friend Sir William Hamilton, and most pathetically represented his situation. Sir William embraced him-- "My dear friend! while I have a house, you can never want one." Then, conducting him to his lady-- "Emma," exclaimed Sir William, "Lord Nelson says, he has no home, I say, he has, while I have one; what say you?" Her ladyship replied, that she was exactly of the same opinion...'
The order and wording of this in Harrison's account should date the occurence to the four days leave of absence snatched by Nelson in London before sailing to the Baltic. That came between 24th and 26th February, 1801 (and not before he left London for the first time on 13th January.)
A couple of quick references and a newspaper report to add to the mix:
Very formal 'Yours Truly' Nelson letter to Lady Nelson, dated 21st January from Plymouth Dock. Postscript:
Quote:
'Captain B tells me you have changed your house.'
Newspapers report on the 24th January that Lady Nelson has gone to Brighton.
Nelson writes to Alexander Davison on the 25th, angered about tales of him buying a fine house for Lady Nelson. He recommends that when in town, a small rented house or an hotel would be the best accommodation for lady Nelson. Davison refutes the story.
Nelson letter to Emma Hamilton, 25th January. Re-assurances about the house buying reports:
Quote:
'Let her go to Briton or where she pleases, I care not, she is a great fool and thank God you are not the least bit like her…'
It seems that Nelson was certainly aware by the 24th February that Lady Nelson had (given up the house?), left London and gone to Brighton.
It does seem though, that he may not have known what was happening before 21st January.
Martyn Downer in 'Nelson's Purse' mentions that the Dover Street house was to be given up by 10th February but gives no source for that comment. I'm assuming it came from the tranche of information discovered in the Davison archives and auctioned off in 2001
Susannah Bolton - a highly concerned and unbiased party hoping for a reconciliation between Nelson and Fanny - wrote to Fanny on 8th March:
Quote:
'I have heard my brother regretted he had not a house he could call his own when he returned … Do, when you hear he is likely to return, have a house ready to receive him… If you absent yourself from him entirely there can never be a reconciliation…’
John Watkins, in his 1814 Memoirs of Lady Hamilton, says that Nelson and Emma concocted the 'Nelson homeless' story between then to inveigle him into Sir William's house. Watkins' sometime informer, Francis Oliver, was obviously on the spot at the time (running confidential messages between Emma and Nelson), but by the time the Memoirs were written neither Oliver nor Watkins could be classed as unbiased. Watkins may equally have taken and twisted the information related in the original Harrison quote. Watkins thoroughly disliked Harrison.
A big palaver over a house does seem to have taken place between January and February 1801. Perhaps this is what Prof. Callender is referring to.
And there's probably more information in other sources to clarify what happened to the house (Dover Street or Arlington Street?) before or after Nelson's departure on 13th January.